Oh My Happy!!!
I’ve been on a 36-month journey to find “My Happy”…and I’m excited to share a few of the tips I’ve learned along the way. “The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are… The second greatest is being happy with what you find…”Anonymous.
This may surprise many of you that know me! For years, I did a fabulous job of convincing myself, and the people around me that I was truly happy. I smiled all the time, I laughed, I did a good job of making myself look good, I had 1000’s of Facebook friends, and I always told people that I LOVED my overwhelmingly busy schedule (seriously, WHO TRULY LOVES HAVING A BUSY SCHEDULE ALL THE TIME???). The problem was, that deep down in my soul, I was trying to convince myself on a daily basis that I was happy – unfortunately, it was much the opposite!
It took some serious soul searching to figure out where my unhappiness stemmed from. It was easy for me to blame others for my gloominess. And let me tell you, initially, I BLAMED OTHERS! I BLAMED A LOT OF OTHERS! I learned something crucial on the road to finding my happiness…There was only 1 person to blame for my emptiness…ME! We all need to be responsible for finding our own bliss!
Here are a few of the things I did to change my life that may work for you too!
Keep in-mind, some of these changes can be intimidating (BUT, NOT IMPOSSIBLE) to make as an adult. We adults seem to get wrapped up in our daily lives, and changes don’t come easily for us.
1. I had to search DEEP WITHIN MYSELF to figure out what I was missing in my life, and to appreciate what I already had.
Life can overwhelm us! All of a sudden we have too much on our plate – marriage, children, work, activities, exercise, studying, COMMITMENTS. Something may need to be added, or something may need to give! In my case, I needed to work less, stop the constant work travel, learn how to relax and spend more time with the most important people in my life, my husband and kids.
2. I put in the EFFORT to remove the things in my life that were causing me distress.
In order to make this happen, I needed to retire from the daily work operations of Creative Coverings. It can be tough for adults to make massive life change. Not working everyday caused me massive anxiety during the first year. I didn’t know how to relax and I felt guilt for not going to the office everyday. The good news is, I grew to love my at-home-quiet-time. I became more relaxed with my kids, I finally appreciated the time I had to watch them at their activities, I spent more time with my husband, I worked-out each day, and I learned that I LOVE to cook! Do you have the energy to put in the emotional work it takes to figure out what’s causing your distress?
3. I surrounded myself around a small group of people who loved me…just for me.
I had to learn to stop focusing on how I thought people felt about me, and started concentrating on how I felt about me. If someone doesn’t like me…I’m now okay with that. We can’t expect everyone to like us. ARE YOU 100% CONFIDENT IN WHO YOU ARE? Let people love you for who you truly are, not for who you want them to believe you are.